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Question by Cris: what does he mean ” I don’t want to be in love?”?
met a “boy” had a great 12 hour date, last nite jokingly asked him (on the phone) If I won the mega millions “Would You love me? ” He stated he’s been in love and doesn’t want to be again. Is this a defensive answer to avoid hurt? Or does he mean it? met thru an online dating service where he advertised for “serious relationship”. We are supposed to spend time together this weekend and Memorial day weekend he is coming to my home. We live 45 miles apart. We really clicked and have alot in common and he calls me every day. we are 49 &47. Both have been married before. I really like him but I don’t want to be hurt either. I am scared of the investment of feelngs I may lose if he isn’t in this for the right reasons. I am not in a hurry but it is still a gamble.
Thanks everyone, your answers are really helping, I am just worrying too soon and will hang loose and enjoy the ride:)
Oh, TOM, your pic is angry looking and so is your answer
Best answer:
Answer by Carpe Astrum
‘I don’t want to be in love’
Probably means that he has had a first hand experience of watching love crumble and slowly die for much of his life…
What do you think? Answer below!
wellll sounds like he was hurt pretty bad, of course he can’t ‘mean’ it because eventually he will find love again, just be understanding and take things verrrrry slow with him and see where it goes, you might turn out to be that girl.
Falling in love can’t be controlled. He may mean it now, but I bet he doesn’t mean it forever. Good luck!
HE DOESN’T WANT YOU
maybe he isn’t emotionally ready to go further yet…
you have to take it slow and at his pace so he wont feel like he is getting rushed and he wont be scared off
also become friends and build you trust and honesty with him…
that would help ALOT in a relationship
hope that helps!
And good luck
May be jokingly he would’ve given you the sign that he loves you & indirectly might’ve said this that he has been in love.
That is just a way of keeping you from getting really close to him, i know you can understand where he is coming from, after you’ve been in love and been hurt you are scared to fall in love again and have the end results turn out the same. Dont push things, let things fall into place he may say that, but if its meant to be love than it will happen
Ask him.
say: “Look something you said the other on the phone bothered me. You have been in love and don’t want to be again.” “That statement makes me worry about where are going”
” I have been hurt and I don’t want to rush anything but I don’t think I would say I never want to be in love again”
I don’t think its nothing against you, what am getting is that he don’t want to be hurt again, not that he don’t want to be in love.
Love isn’t something you can choose to feel. I would say let it happen and see where it goes. You haven’t known each other very long so it’s too early to be worrying about stuff like that. If you like spending time with him then spend time with him. He might not want to be in love again but he might not be able to avoid it!!
hhmm im thinking this is just something to let you know that hes not ready, and just wants to take it slow… relax and have fun.. dont be serious aboiut things and maybe it will work out, you will never know if you dont take a chance..
Usually when people say something like that it is because they have been hurt in the past. He is probably just afraid of getting hurt. Love is not always painless and he probably just had a bad experience. Before you just let him go maybe talk to him and reassure him that your intention is not to hurt him if that is what he thinks and ask him why he feels like he does not want to be in love. I believe a talk would make this all better!
hes afraid of commitment
I am sure he was badly hurt and doesn’t want to experience those feelings again. He probably doesn’t want to open himself up to you because he hardly knows you. He may be a guy that takes the relationship very slowly. You need to decide if that will be ok with you. If so, then just enjoy the relationship and see where it goes. When you open yourself up you are always opening up for a chance of being hurt. My guess is once he feels more comfortable he will open up more…but, it will take time!
From what I understand I believe he’s trying not to get too attached too soon by falling in love. He has had his heart broken before, and I’m sure he doesn’t want it to happen again so he is very protective of his feelings and his heart. Take your time by getting to know him, spend quality time, and let him get to know the TRUE you and I’m sure he’ll come around.
Good luck.
He had love issues.He doesn’t wanna love another girl
he is lame, dont believe it, he wants you to wonder. but if your a catch then love will come
Sounds like he has been hurt in the past and is trying to put up the “I don’t want to be in love” wall. She really must have done a number on him. My now husband was the same way when we were dating. had a really bad break up, just wanted to have a good time, but you can’t control feeling love. The heart wants what the heart wants. Just take it one day at a time and see what life brings. Mine actually got scared after telling me he loved me and we broke up for a short time. Now we have been together since 94. Good luck…
Well, it sounds like his stament was a “defense mechanism” to protect himself.
However, it was probably said in order to deflect your question.
Why would you ask him that even if it was just a joke?
I don’t doubt that he’s looking for something serious, but I get the feeling that maybe he thinks YOU’RE trying to rush things by making jokes about love after just one date.
You might have spooked him a little.
You say you’re not in a hurry, but in his mind (and that of most men) whenever a woman brings up the “L” word (whether joking or not) that sends up a big red flag in his mind that you’re trying to land a man.
From reading your post, you actually are sending mixed messages: on the one hand you say your not in a hurry, but on the other you say your scared of investing any feeling into him if he isn’t in it for the long haul.
Remember this is just your initial meeting…you are applying WAY too much pressure on what should be just relaxed social interaction – a chance to really get to know each other so that you learn whether or not a relationship can develope..so in a way, he’s feeling defensive might actually be valid.
My suggestion is to let it drop…don’t bring it up again (not even as a joke)…if you’re truly not in a hurry, then don’t give him the impression that you are…relax, enjoy dating him and let the relationship take it’s time to develop, ok?